Monday, December 8, 2014


I get a six week paid sabbatical after every four years of work. I hit my four-years in July, 2014 and elected to take the sabbatical for Feb & March, 2015.

Today I booked flight 3/3. In less than TWO MONTHS all of this will be happening:

Week 1 - Skiing in Colorado with the Austin framily
Week 2 - A few days in Kansas City to celebrate Katie's 28th birthday and gear up for...
Week 2/3 - Hiking and backpacking the Grand Canyon with my mom. There's still spots available if you want to join in!
Week 3 - Flying across the world to Thailand
Week 4 - Visiting Thailand, Laos, and Cambodia (details still in the works, suggestions appreciated)
Week 5 - Meeting up with Kimber and Jaime in Phuket and adventuring around Thailand
Week 6 - Beaches, massages, and more Thailand until flying back to Chicago. Doing laundry and trying to adjust back to reality.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

this is my life

In some ways, being single has made my life much more interesting. When you're single, you don't really have anybody else to plan around. Thus, I've found it pretty challenging to form a routine. I've never be this "go with the flow" with my life before now.

And yes, you end up having lots of entertaining stories to share.

  • Kenneth, that first kiss
  • Kody Wisconsin
  • Getting abandoned at a bar
  • I want to date you, but also other people.
  • Getting drunk dialed by the same guy 2 weekends in a row
  • The guy who was afraid to kiss me
  • Breaking up with the wrong Steve
  • Getting nothing on my birthday
  • Data: a Love Story

Monday, November 17, 2014

12 years of boyhood

I think Katy was the first person to post something about Richard Linklater's latest movie, Boyhood. Shortly thereafter Jaime mentioned it to me. Then I got an email from my dad recommending my brothers and I go. So it had been on my radar for weeks, but going to the movies can seem like such a chore. But, once Sarah texted me, "go see it now." I made a decision to make it happen that week.

The movie follows the real life ageing of a boy. It starts when he is six, and films him at the same time every year until he is 18. Every year. You watch him grow up. That's the premise. He grows up in front of your eyes.

It's just such a cool movie.

And, like everything else I've seen from Linklater... it makes me contemplate my existence.

I still haven't seen Before Midnight, but Sunrise & Sunset are two of my favorites
One year seems like such an insignificant amount of time. But each year makes up everything.

I keep feeling like my time in Chicago is just filler. And then I think... filler for what?

Monday, November 10, 2014

ending the relationship

Disclaimer: this is a rant because some jerk guy didn't have the balls to break up with me in a decent manner.

Ways to end the relationship:

Text Message
Relationship Status: It's been 1-2 dates and you do not know this person well.
Method of communication: text message
Appropriate messages:
  • Hey, thanks for last night, but I don't see this going anywhere. Take care.
  • It was nice meeting you but I don't see this going anywhere. Take care.
Should be less than 160 characters, as you do not want this message to take more than one text bubble. I recommend deleting the person's phone number from your phone after sending this message. There is nothing more to it.

The Text v. Call Scenario
Relationship Status: You've seen them at least 4 times, probably kissed, may have seen where they live, and may have even spoken over the phone.
Method of communication: Phone. but, the jury's still out
Appropriate message:
  • Hi, XX, how are you doing? (perhaps make small talk for a few moments, until it's clearly the time for you to state the reason for your call.) Well. I have enjoyed getting to know you, but I just don't see this going anywhere. I don't think we are on the same page (or insert whatever succinct applicable reason) and thus, I don't see this going anywhere. Just wanted to let you know. Ok? Ok. Thanks. Bye.
In this situation the other person may be surprised, which is too bad, but the point of you ending the relationship is because it's what you want and really, nobody wants to waste their time. It sucks that you're hurting somebody's feelings but better now than later. Suck it up, just do it, you'll feel better afterwards.

Relationship Status: It's been a few weeks/months of hanging out with this person. You've had several meals together and done some fun things. You can describe their job, they've seen where you sleep, and you've probably met their friends or even their family.
Method of communication: in-person, verbally. Not by sticky note.
Appropriate messages:
  • Follow your heart but be civil and swift.
  • Have a getaway plan already solidified. Note: If you're the one breaking up with the other person, I don't recommend inviting them over to your house for this conversation. Because then, not only do you want them out of your life, but you also have to find a way to get them out of your house. In this case, it's better to go to their house, or to meet in some neutral location.
Doing Nothing
Relationship Status: Most likely this is in one of those "less than a month" situations but I've come to learn that people suck and will likely perform this method in all sorts of scenarios.
Method of communication: non-existent
Appropriate messages;

  • They say nothing. You never hear from them. For all you know, they died.
  • This is probably the most often performed and the MOST ANNOYING EVER.
But here's what I know... people suck. And you didn't deserve to be with that person anyways because if they were afraid to break up with you, then they are probably afraid of a lot of other things, and you deserve to be with somebody brave and kind and decent and not that guy.

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

michigan and me

This past weekend I went to Michigan. Because I had to be in Ann Arbor on Monday for on-campus interviews and because I'd never really been to the state, I figured I'd take myself on a road trip and see the sights. Although I passively tried to find a travel companion, the fact that I'd be taking this trip alone was exciting.  I've got my heart set on going to Thailand in February- for most of which I'll be by myself. Thus, taking a few days to see Michigan solo would be practice.

Fortunately, my dear friend and entrepreneur, Anna Lauri, hails from the great state and oh-so-kindly sent me over a perfect agenda. I would have missed out on all the best stuff if it hadn't been for her.

On Saturday I left Chicago, driving through Gary, Indiana, and up into Michigan.  I took the scenic route a few times, cruising through Michigan City, New Buffalo, and back on i-94. Despite Anna's advice, because I was famished, and needed a break from the road, I stopped in South Haven around 2:45pm.  I totally felt like a pioneer; my pace quickened at the sight of the lake.

wind surfers on the beach in South Haven
lighthouse in South Haven
My next stop was Saugatuck, whose adorable shops and fall beauty completely surpassed my expectations.  Some of the best fall colors I've ever seen.

I dined at The Butler on the lake, where Anna spent many past summer waiting tables.  Although she told me to sit by the window, the Texas game was on the TVs by the bar, and I had to indulge (shoulda sat by the window).  After my burger, I walked around town, catching the annual Halloween parade, and savoring some Kilwins ice cream.

man's best friend
That night, I drove to Holland where I stayed at the Best Western Plus Holland Inn and Suites. An unfortunate implication of planning my trip so last minute was that the two hotels in downtown Holland were sold out for Saturday night.  So I dealt with staying 3-4 miles away from downtown.  But, before retiring to my very affordable room, I swung through downtown Holland for window-shopping and craft beer drinking.  I spent the hour before the Royals game enjoying a New Holland beer flight while plotting out my Sunday. Picked up a $2.50 NH pint glass as a souvenir from the trip, and drove home to watch the Royals crumble to the Giants in game 4.
beers and baseball

kayak on a van in downtown Holland
Sunday morning I woke up leisurely to pack up, stop by the continental breakfast, and embark on day two of the adventure.  Which included:
  • Hiking mount Pisgah (a ginormous sand dune)
  • Walking along the sand to the Big Red lighthouse at Holland State Park
  • Finding the windmills in downtown Holland
  • Completing the visitor's bureau art walk through downtown and the Hope College campus
  • Having just enough time for lunch and a beer flight at 84 East before hitting the road to Ann Arbor
pics or it didn't happen:
entrance to the Mount Pisgah Hike

hiking in the leaves on a Sunday morning
the stairs I'm about to ascend
view of Lake Macatawa from Mt. Pisgah
view of Big Red from Mt. Pisgah
the last set of stairs up the dune
looks much more like sand from this angle
this pic tries to capture the slippery leaves on the side of this cliff. It was pretty steep, but I managed.
self timer selfie on top of Mt. Pisgah
So many leaves everywhere. Just beautiful.
"Big Red" at Holland State Park
every time I'm at the beach I have this song in my head.
me with Big Red. In my Royal's sweat-shirt
spotted the windmill in downtown Holland
Hope College campus
flute player statue
downtown Holland
my lunchtime beer flight.
In Ann Arbor, Morningstar put me up at the Bell Tower Hotel. It was conveniently located right off campus, a block from State Street. On Sunday night I wandered campus, snap-chatted fall leaves pictures, and drove to Detroit to pick up my colleague from the airport. 
Michigan's Bell Tower
all the colors of the wind
fall everywhere
ants marching in Ann Arbor

I made it back to campus just in time to grab dinner from Mezes and hunker into bed for another night of falling asleep while watching the World Series. On Monday it was back to work, for a full day of interviews with Michigan students. We had a nice lunch break at Red Hawk and a five star airport dinner at TGI Fridays. One of the best parts of this trip was only having to drive one way. My colleague and I flew back to Chicago together on Monday night, summing up a pretty perfect weekend getaway.
Thanks for being beautiful, Michigan!

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Sunday Lollas

The final day of one of my favorite weekends of the year.

put your ponchos on for Bleachers
the guy from Fun started Bleachers, and they are great.

little bit of White Denim
Trombone Shorty from the lawn. By myself.
Hollywood in the rain

I met back up with Jennie and Nate on the hillside. Note the couple in front of me. I started intentionally situating myself near people who looked older than me. It's all about perspective. Please also note how wet/cold they are all starting to look. The rain continued off and on for all of Sunday.
Glen Hansard from very far away
So, doing the festival 100% sober on Friday did not continue to Saturday, and certainly not onto Sunday. Thus, I have zero photos of The Avett Brothers or Young the Giant. I left earlier than I really care to admit that night too. One final picture documenting Chicago's skyline from the grounds of Lolla:
another year in the books.